"Just Because You Make A Mistake, Doesn't Mean You Are A Mistake"
- Georgette Mosbacher
We often find ourselves in a whirlpool of thoughts and deed's that make us feel small and unaccomplished, manier times even a zero amongst the million achieved number's out there, but the fact is we are so much deep into those thoughts, so much affected by these small puff's of emotion's that overwhelm us in matter of seconds after they pop into our minds. Where do these come from? No one knows, but a fathomable standard is finding what our previous experiences in life were and it goes back well good to our childhood and travelling up to adulthood and all related events. For the per say - we all are same from within, same number of bones and muscles working inside but the brain - that's where the churning of emotion's into spices of life happens, which can be sometimes so blend that we don't enjoy it and sometimes its so flavorful that other's admire it. But, but, the catch is - both of these state's are not constant and changes across one single lifetime which leaves behind lesson's we all should learn from early on - but no one tells us.
1) MIND IS THE ENEMY.
The early on you decide - understand and accept it - all other problems will become miniscule, so irrelevant and easy to understand. The food for mind is pure emotion's, it cant think of its own, it needs a response to generate an answer, a question that arises within and rapidly get's related to previous life experiences or even generational one's and then the mind decides almost in a fraction of second - taking references from all of it and giving you an immediate thought - almost an knee jerk reaction attached with emotions 'again' that makes you feel its the correct answer and you put it into action as your decision.
Remember anything that is fast is probably from a manufacturing line with defects, slow and steady things are of quality - instant one's are more damaging. Look around you. It influences you such a way that only later after the decision you repent making the decision, as now you have fresh new responses and experiences the brain can relate to and now takes references from those new events, what an irony. What a whirlpool we instantly create for ourselves.?
You need to trigger a reflex that the same responses can be taken after a pause, let the emotion subside, settle down, as buddha once said to his disciple who was sent to fetch water from a pond which was muddy due to recent cattle's passing by from it, he came and returned empty handed, buddha asked the disciple to return to the same pond again and he was sure he will return with pot full of water, disciple with a doubt returned to the pond to the amazement of it being crystal clear, that day disciple learned that sometimes emotion's and decision need time to settle down before it is ever taken as in the hype of the moment it could seem the correct answer but behind the curtains and in this case the muddy water needed to settle down for the fresh water - fresh answer to arise.
Don't believe everything your mind say's to you.
2) YOU ARE NOT IMMORTAL.
Sometimes in the prime years, when we are young we all feel invisible, almost immortal with ample of time on our hands to stand and stare like the cows in the field, moving their jaw's with empty thoughts not knowing what can be done or what should be done, but the sad part is we all are ticking away. Listen to your own heart in a quite room, put a hand on the chest, its your own living clock ticking, beat after beat.
Don't postpone fun, dreams, joy, that travel you wanted to do, that girl you liked but could never say, that something you always wanted to do. Just go do it, nothing is stopping you rather than you yourself. Don't dwell in the past as it is gone, nothing can be done about it, don't plan for the future - you don't own it, realize that you don't know what the very next second holds for you, but as its widely said "Today is a gift hence its called the present", so be it. Make most of what you have, who you have, that's all is. Don't go chasing a future while you have never lived in the present. This is the hardest lesson we all will learn when time is about to run out and again you wont be able to do anything about it.
3) YOU WILL BECOME WHAT YOU THINK.
This is not manifestation. But a continuous habit of you thinking. How you think. This is in conflict with the first point, because if you cant train or tame your own brain then its the enemy, train yourself to think positive, don't belittle yourself no matter what hardships you face as then you will come out as a winner just because you had a constant motivation within you to run against all the odds and come out as the winner.
Just think how many things you left unfinished just because you thought or someone made you think you can't do it - remember what other's say is because they cant do it, its their experience and not yours, at least give it a try, who knows it just might work. So keep a positive thought, positive mind for all aspects of your life as eventually we are all temporary and its the very joy of life that it keeps flowing, nothing stays, nor will your negative thoughts nor even positive one's but heal yourselves by being positive.
4) SACRIFCE.
Life and its event's come's at a cost of sacrifice. There is barter system in the flow of life that you can't outrun or run parallel to, you give something to get something, it can't be one way. You give love, you get love back, you throw a stone, you get a stone back, you help someone, someway life finds a way to pay you back. There is no carry on or tab's that life keeps of your deeds that your soul would carry to next one, it happens right here. This life time. You have to give something, manier time's it takes a toll on your emotions, your mental peace, your hope, your will but that's the barter - it is creating a credit for you to receive back when the time is right - it definitely pays off. It can be delayed but not denied.
Once you have sacrificed enough you will get enough back, probably even worth more (with interest) that makes you thank the omnipresent for what had ever happened has happened for the better of all. So sacrifice is what you are doing as of now, you are doing it right, it just doesn't seem right in the current moment.
5) LET GO OF FIRE.
There are 5 forms from which our human body is made, believed by Indian Philosophy, Fire, Water, Earth, Air, Aether, also known as Panch Bhuta - The Five Elements, for this point we are going to talk about fire which is related to greed, anger, tension, rage, jealously, lust. You need to let go off them before it overwhelms you so much that it engulfs you - fire only leaves behind ashes and its very difficult to bring something back from the ashes.
Don't loose yourselves in the element of fire. Its a package you are born with, so deal with it. Enable yourselves early on or this moment on that you cannot and will not let these aspects of the fire element control you, as what it only creates more destruction in it's wake, so much that you will find yourselves alone and destroyed even with all worldly gain's, if your fire element has won than you will probably even loose your character by the time its too late. Don't let it.
6) MISTAKE AND FAILURE IS SUCCESS.
If you find yourselves in a heap of mistake or back to back failure's remember this, you have taken a step towards success from the rest 99% people out there. You are moving forwards until and unless you don't repeat them again, that's wisdom gained every time. Put them into action each new dice you roll on the table of life and see the magic unfold. Don't be overwhelmed with what has happened now, believe in the newer you that has emerged with every mistake, every failure that has been by gone has made you wiser. Celebrate it.
The most relatable example you can learn from in today's time is from Space X. Go search if you don't know already. The data you receive from each of these mistaken or failed events and attempts is priceless. It will become your source code of what you become in the future. It will define you but the way it defines you is all up to you and nobody else, you can back out or stick in and become a better version. You have to become a better version. Just don't let these small obstacles or hindrances stop you.
7) LITTLE IS MORE.
You must have noticed manier time's that the affluent could be sad while a simple man is happier and vice versa. But when you initially start anywhere, any point of your life, right now, remember, you don't need a lot to create a lot or enjoy a lot, even the smallest, simplest things can bring joy to your life, stay content, stay grounded, no matter where you are or what you have or might achieve in life.
Why? as it will defeat your ego. Be mindful that along the journey in this life don't let your ego develop, stay humble and kind, even when you have a penny in pocket or a dollar, stay humble and kind. Ego is one another element from fire that in its wake on leaves behind destruction and a cloud that makes you think undefeatable, right? I too have been there, but believe me, that its a weather that passes on real fast to show you a picture you wont like later. Stay grounded, the most content is the winner in this life.
If you are blessed with grandparent's do ask them this question and see how a beautiful answer unfolds, they have seen year's of life that yet remains' to be unfolded for you and most of these silver hair's beautifully explain how less is more. How being content is the real joy of life.
Where you are, with what you have, is best you have which many dream of having at the very same time and it keeps being relatable as you progress in life.
8) RESPECT OTHERS.
It's not only you every morning that wake's up and goes out in the world, there are a billion other along the same second that walk along side you, fighting their own bread and butter, fighting their own demons, there are all kings and queens wearing their crowns along with you out there, fighting to be on their own throne and not back down.
Don't belittle anyone when such time comes, be appreciative, you never know someone might be hanging by their last thread, they just drew the short straw, and came to you by chance for a response that was filled with the fire element and could decide to be their end game, it could be you on the receiving end at the same time some other place. Not immediately but remember what you give is what you get so be mindful and not fearful. Self talk your words before it is spoken. Even for yourself. Talk to yourself respectfully.
9) QUALITY NOT QUANTITY.
Slow is quality and fast is quantity, majority of the time faster has flaws, but in life there is no rush, its a marathon, don't win, try to finish it with quality, ask yourself where your quality is, in life, in goals, in dreams, in achievements. You might have a 100 shields of accomplishment hanging on the walls of your home but from those 100 you definitely have only few or even only 1 that you like the most. That's because you delivered a quality beyond you for that particular shield. That mattered apart from the others.
Focus on slow and steady, no success that is fast develops character. The slow and steady who has seen different facet's of life is the one who is humble, pure, soft and silent in the room. A diamond too need's to be faceted for it to shine like itself, under pressure a few can last but brings out the quality in them that's shine brighter than the rest. No Rush.
10) SURRENDER TO THE STORM.
This particular one need's to be understood from the day you start thinking for yourself. Learn from the tall trees, the ones that bend down in the face of the storm are the one's that keep standing after it. Whenever there is a storm brewing or you find yourself in the eye of it, bend down, know that and accept that certain times loosing is winning. You can always come back to try again but for that moment loose.
Consider a storm as your child, there is no fun winning in front of the child, it will only create sadness, disappointment, tantrums when you win. Certain storms demand's for you too loose, so loose, don't be fearful of it, you can't always win.
Remember these lines, I say write it down somewhere like I have it always on me:
"You can win everything from everyone in this life, Eventually to loose it all in the end"
In the end we all are going to loose to the ultimate truth that was born with us the second we opened our eyes, nothing that we fumble, stumble, trouble ourselves to be accomplished in this life is ever going to be carried on with us, the pharos's left their gold behind, the huge armies of alexander whose dust could be seen from the horizon also settled down from where it all rose and so shall yours too.
If you understand this, you will be more at peace, more content and yet more motivated with a smile, that the point of joy you always have to be in.
For rest everything, Que Sera, Sera!
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